Random Days on the Road
Sunday, July 18, 2004
It's been so long....
Yet far away from this medium that it doesn't matter.
Brief Recap through today:
On April 7, the CEO filed for divorce, the day I was out of town
On April 7, her boyfriend found out he had a stage 4 brain tumor
On April 14, he broke up with her and went back to his family.
On April 22, he had brain surgery - very lucky to be alive, but has a good chance.
All the rest are little things, like her breaking into the house (after she moved out), not communicating appropriately (an ongoing concern).
Current Status:
90 days have passed since I was served with papers (officially). According to Colorado, this means the divorce can be finalized. She has gone way over her retainer (double mine) and I still have 20% left of my original.
She and I have negotiated 90% of a parenting plan for the kids.
* Joint Custody (mostly)
* I have asked for an alcohol restriction. She doesn't want it.
* I have asked for the kids to learn a foreign language in an Immersion school - she's not "hip" on it because it's too radical for her. Hmm, who has the Physics degree and who has the Marketing degree?
* I get the kids on New Year's - she gets them on Christmas. I think we both get what we want.
I have been dating like crazy and could easily wind up in a steady relationship with a number of interesting women.
I have made 3 secret trips to NY and San Diego - each for one day.
I have made 8 small trips since April - this is well below average.
I have made 1 large trip on a vacation with the kids.
Lessons Learned:
I know my rights.
I know what I should get.
I know her better now than I did before.
Where am I at:
I'm trying to forget the bad stuff - there are good days and bad days.
I'm burned out and slipping away.
I have pictures on my sidekick that are labeled "Broken, Bruised, Forgotten, Sore" - on a plane to Vegas after learning I will be arrested for missing court inappropriately - they are now a good object lesson for the kids on how to do things by the rules.
If I would name this time, it's "Confused, Overwhelmed, but hopefully the end is in sight"
I don't want to talk. I can't even hear myself anymore talking. It's been crazy. I wanted to use this, but I have used my friends too much.
I promise to update more often - but that's to myself. I have another journal - I will upload it with the dates as appropriate - The airplane diaries.
The movie progresses. I have DVD chapter titles to use as a table of contents. I have people starting production. I need another writer. I have 7 scenes written.
Nine Inch Nails is starting to come out of it's hiding spot. I'm ready for mine - I've been hiding in plain sight.
